My take is that things have been changing for the better as the years go by. When I first got here in 1999, there was an air of animosity between the military and the civilians. Over time it’s been getting better. For the most part the military people you see will be air national guard. Everyday people like all of us who do their time each year in the military.
There is still a division though. They have a private dorm with signs saying you are not allowed in. They also have their own private bar that the rest of the community isn’t allowed to visit.
All in all though you won’t notice it much.
As to girls and guys in the same dorms. It’s all equal there.